San Jose divorce attorney discusses divorcing a spouse with borderline personality disorder (BPD). Call 408-560-4487 to schedule your consultation.
As the Mayo clinic suggests, a person with borderline personality disorder can be easily irritated, moody, paranoid, and exhibit frequent intense anger, experience thoughts of suicide, and display other contentious behaviors.
Most experts believe that genetics play a factor in borderline personality disorders. The condition may be affected by brain structure, social and cultural, or even environmental factors, potentially increasing the risk of developing BPD or the severity of the symptoms.
Do you intend to divorce a spouse with BPD? Here are a few suggestions on how to protect yourself:
A. Choose your battle
There are several reasons why people need to divulge their marital dynamics to their divorce lawyer. Having only half the story will never help your case. For this reason, seek a strong attorney who understands you, your case, and the characteristics of personality disorders that you may be dealing with on the other side.
B. Document everything
Your spouse’s lawyer can use everything you write in emails, text messages, and social media against you in court. Additionally, how you correspond with your soon-to-be ex- spouse can make a tremendous difference. He/she may make false allegations against
you to discredit you in public and in court. Having a safe place to go may help you protect yourself physically from abuse. Keeping accurate notes about confrontations may help you defend yourself against false allegations in future court hearings.
C. Manage your own emotions
People with personality disorders are often domineering, vindictive, and intrusive. When they feel defensive, these traits seem to increase. It’s often wise to find a counselor who can help you deal with the emotional roller coaster and may help you understand or predict your former partner’s high-conflict behavior.